Becoming more compassionate will benefit everyone around you, including yourself. If you want to become a better friend to both yourself and others, these articles are for you:
A Primer On Understanding & Compassion
By Zen Habits
“In this primer, I’d like to talk about how to be more understanding, and then how to be mindfully compassionate on an everyday basis. Of course, I am as guilty of being judgmental and less-than-compassionate as anyone else, so I don’t want to convey the impression that I’m above anyone. I’m not!
That said, I think this is important: when we are judgmental, it hurts our relationships with others, and makes us frustrated and unhappy. We can dissolve all of that, and be happier and more loving with other people and ourselves.”
3 Ways To Increase Your Emotional Intelligence (And Why It Matters)
“First things first: let’s talk about what emotional intelligence actually is. Because we’re all kind of wondering. On the simplest level, ‘emotional intelligence’ starts with the ability to read the room. It’s a person’s innate sense of what’s going on beneath surface-level dialogues, and how the people around them actually feel about the situation at hand.
You wouldn’t be wrong if you’re wondering whether emotional intelligence is just a buzzword synonym for empathy, but you wouldn’t be right either. ‘Empathy’ puts you on the right track — people often cite it as one part of emotional intelligence — ensuring that you can read the signs of stressed coworkers in your weekly meeting or let go when your boss’s bad day comes raining down on you (because we all have them, right?). But emotional intelligence means you have the ability to take it one step further, steering your emotions and those of others in positive, productive directions”
How To Empathize Without Stealing The Spotlight
“When I was 12, my mom suffered a traumatic brain injury, something that greatly affected me then and still does today. Over the past 15 years, friends, family members, and even strangers have tried to empathize, but most attempts have appeared in the form of personal comparison. It usually goes a little something like this:
‘Oh, that sounds just like this thing that happened to this person I know. This is how she handled it, and you should do that, too!’
Hearing this can sometimes be frustrating, to say the least. It can invalidate my struggle and the solution often sounds simpler than it actually is.”
In A Hurting World, Why Our Self-Compassion Needs A Check
“These days kindness and compassion appear to be in short supply. Whether it is on social media, at a family or work gathering, or even in your own thought life, cynicism and despair can battle to take root as you try to navigate your own hurts along with the pain of loved ones and those in the world. The toxic residue of the messy and noisy aspects of culture can take a toll on your community and on your own physical and emotional health. That’s why a practice of self-compassion is non-negotiable.”